Here are my top eleven ideas for helping a relative to heal. It’s all about attitude.
1. Do not panic!
2. Accept only positive perspectives.
3. Be open minded to other ways of thinking.
4. Change your belief system.
5. You are an advocate for your relative, not the doctor’s cheerleader.
6. Your relative is not chronic; the interventions that have been tried so far are a failure. Try something different.
7. Spread your eggs over many baskets.
8. Your relative is not brain-diseased, but is reacting this way for a reason. Be empathetic. Hold his or her hand and say “I understand you are angry/afraid/whatever and you have every right to be.” You don’t know why, at this point, so don’t probe, just be there and be sympathetic and keep your mouth closed.
9. Indulge in self-examination.
10. This is a crisis only. There is an opportunity here for you and your relative to grow.
11. Beware declaring victory too soon.